If You Feel Unhappy... Many emotional traumas from childhood are caused when our caregivers shame us, snap at us, and ignore us when we are having an emotional experience. This is a kind of emotional abandonment. When as children our emotional life is not accurately received, we can feel abandoned, shamed, unworthy, confused, empty, and … Continue reading Authenticity Can Save Your Life
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HEART CENTRED LIVING
Heart Centred Living Many of us believe unconsciously that love is limited and conditional. We associate love with “approval”, believe that we come up short unless deemed otherwise, and become invested in proving self-worth through productivity. We learn to dislike ourselves, and compete with each other. This competition is based on the confusion of wealth, … Continue reading HEART CENTRED LIVING
BUILDING POSITIVE EMOTIONAL RESOURCES
Emotional Presence Technique You may have a specific experience that is causing some emotions to stir up, or you may simply want to do this technique as a daily practice. The goal is to practice presence with your emotion by feeling the sensations of it, instead of telling a story about it. This will show … Continue reading BUILDING POSITIVE EMOTIONAL RESOURCES
How to Meditate Mindfully
Mindfulness Meditation Practice Mindfulness meditation is like medicine for the mind, brain and heart. The brain structures of long term mindfulness meditators are different from the average brain. The areas associated with compassion and emotional stability are bigger. Mindfulness is the practice of unconditional presence - sort of similar to pure love - just approval, … Continue reading How to Meditate Mindfully
Emotional Grounding Techniques
The Three Keys of Emotional Mastery Imagine a crying 1 month old. The baby is fed, clean, rested and will not stop crying. You can treat an emotion as if it is this baby. This baby cannot stop crying on its own because its brain is still growing and learning how to calm down. The … Continue reading Emotional Grounding Techniques
HEAL THE BRAIN TO TRAIN EMOTION
Heart-Brain Heart-Brain coherence is when the frequencies emitted by the neurons of the brain are coherent with those emitted by the heart. This state of coherence corresponds with mental clarity, emotional balance, and better physical health. Heart-Brain coherence can occur spontaneously in sleep, and also be induced by intentionally generating positive emotional states (for example … Continue reading HEAL THE BRAIN TO TRAIN EMOTION
THE BODY-MIND-BRAIN CONNECTION OF EMOTION
THE BODY-MIND-BRAIN CONNECTION OF EMOTION Your emotional life is influenced by your body, brain, and mind. This means that you can transform your brain, body, and mind so that they are primed for a balanced emotional life. Working with any one aspect will influence the others. It's all connected. Not only can you actively work … Continue reading THE BODY-MIND-BRAIN CONNECTION OF EMOTION
Why We Feel…
Introduction to Emotion Emotion is a powerful and universal human experience. Emotions sabotage us and they serve us. They block our creativity and they energise it. They can damage our bodies and heal them. They create the atmosphere of war, and support communal well being. We are uplifted by our emotions, and pulled down by … Continue reading Why We Feel…
THE CASE FOR YOUR EMOTIONS
Why Emotions Matter Emotions are an inescapable part of our human experience. Yet we are provided with few tools to navigate or understand our emotional worlds. “Mental health” is a commonly spoken phrase, but emotional health, and spiritual health are seldom discussed. Many of us believe that we are at the mercy of our emotions, … Continue reading THE CASE FOR YOUR EMOTIONS
Five Myths About Psychotherapy – HOW TO FIND THE THERAPIST THAT’S RIGHT FOR YOU
Making the decision to speak to a psychologist or a psychotherapist is a very personal choice. Your therapist should be the right fit for your goals and needs. Many people can walk away from a bad session and blame themselves. Others can spend ages in therapy without results, and think they are at fault. If … Continue reading Five Myths About Psychotherapy – HOW TO FIND THE THERAPIST THAT’S RIGHT FOR YOU
PORTRAIT OF AN INNER CHILD
They were on their way to the park, and waiting to cross the road. Beep. Beep. Beep - Tock! Green light. Mum held onto Marelise's hand very tightly. Too tightly. She walked briskly, pulling at Marelise's arm as they made their way to the other side of the road. The day before, Marelise and her … Continue reading PORTRAIT OF AN INNER CHILD
FEELING UNWANTED
You look for the reason, but can't find the problem... If you've ever felt unwanted, and are tired of friends and family telling you that "it's all in your head," but you can't change your mind, the problem is not what you think. This is the thing about having a subconscious! We know how we … Continue reading FEELING UNWANTED
HEALTHY ARGUMENTS & THE ENLIGHTENED COUPLE
HAVING GOOD DISAGREEMENTS Disagreement is part of safe and healthy relationships. Many people worry that conflict is a sign of relationship failure. Relationships break down when communication doesn't happen. It's not about the fact that you disagree, it's about how to argue. Thinking about how to have healthy arguments is important, because this can make or … Continue reading HEALTHY ARGUMENTS & THE ENLIGHTENED COUPLE
WHY IT’S SCARY AND HOW TO CHANGE
When your circumstances don't match your expectations, you want to know how to change. Whether we are working to change our relationship with ourselves, with others, or even our careers - the fear of change can be the thing that stops us from making it. WHEN THE EGO'S SURVIVAL SABOTAGES YOUR SUCCESS The ego is … Continue reading WHY IT’S SCARY AND HOW TO CHANGE
STRONG SELF IS AN AUTHENTIC SELF
Being strong is easier when you know who you are. That's because you know who you're standing up for! There is no right or wrong way of being, but there is your way of being. We were most aware of our authentic selves and potential as children. Unfortunately, there are many reasons why we have … Continue reading STRONG SELF IS AN AUTHENTIC SELF
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE IF YOU ARE AFRAID
STRATEGIES WON'T WORK IF YOU ARE IN FEAR If you've struggled with assertiveness, you'll know that becoming assertive is harder than learning a few skills and practicing saying no to a mirror. There are powerful reasons why you feel unsafe to speak your voice. When 'strategies' don't work, it means that you are stuck in … Continue reading HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE IF YOU ARE AFRAID
THE LOST SELF…WHY YOU FEEL LOST
We all want to be the attuned vital force that directs Life seamlessly. We want to make clear decisions, be successful, and choose the right path for our greatest good. Often though, we feel stuck. It's not so clear how to move forward, how to get out of the 'trap', or what the right choice … Continue reading THE LOST SELF…WHY YOU FEEL LOST
HEALING FAQ
Should I Heal? Not everyone feels ready to heal. When it's time, you will have an inner sense that you want to work something out, and that something needs to change. Can I Heal? You are self-healing. In the same way that an infection will stop the body from closing a wound; certain life experiences … Continue reading HEALING FAQ